It's that time of the year where most poeple who are in relationships meet the parents for the first time. There are PLENTY do's & DO NOTS that all cultures pretty much share but there are some that are MORE SPECIFIC to black and white races...
Here are few to prepare yourself...
5) DON'T BRING A DISH...BRING LIQOUR or OTHER UTENSILS
There is a common misconception among the black community that white people cant cook..And while my experiences doesnt always prove the stereotype right (since being in the south). I have had more than a few situations reinforcing this said stereotype. So save yourself the speculation and the risk of your food becoming a pet favorite. Just DONT'T.. Lets put it like this..If you havent cooking for your sig other...Dont feel safe about cooking for his/her family
4) DON'T THINK THE FAMILY DOESN'T LIKE YOU JUST BECAUSE YOU'RE WHITE
Most would think that JUST BECAUSE OF YOUR SKIN TONE YOU'D BE JUDGED...Nah Most black families are reluctant to meet a sig other especially if the family hasn't met too many & said member is deemed "successful". They are going to be skeptical of anybody no matter the nationality because they dont want their child to become distracted period.
3) DON'T ASK TO CHANGE THE MUSIC
REMEMBER YOUR PRIVILEGE... White people tend to forget that white privilege seemingly has no limits... from the judicial system to hip hop culture... The one time that black families can get together and escape that .. is in the comfort of their homes during the holidays..If you are there... You are listening to whatever RELIEF they want to hear at that moment so brush up on your Frankie Beverly..Earth Wind..Sam Cooke..Marvin Gaye... & Chaka Khan to name a few
2) DON'T ASK ABOUT HAIR CARE PRODUCTS
ALL HAIR DONT MATTER...Black women have fought tirelessly for a lot of things and one of the small increasing victories is having more options for "women of color" or "ethinic hair" in stores like Wal-Greens..Wal-Mart etc.. So with that and the constant appropriation of culture..Its best not to ask what kind of curly hair product his auntie uses..
1) DON'T...DO...NOT...NOTTTTT FEEL THE NEED TO INFORM THE FAMILY THAT IS THE 1ST BLACK PERSON YOU'VE DATED
IF YOU GET ASKED...ANSWER...DO NOT LIE... THEY CAN ALWAYS TELL IF YOU ARE...but if you dont get asked... don't mention it... go with the flow... simple Because if the family feels that this is just a experiment of fantasy fulfilled.. YOU WONT LAST LONG
JUST HAVE FUN. NO WORRIES
#JOEKnos